Many months ago I wrote a piece called ‘What will happen to my autistic child after I am gone‘. I really didn’t expect anyone to read it. It was just my thoughts and fears that I felt better for putting out there. The rabblings of a menopausal, slightly fruit loop, approaching fifty woman. It’s one of my greatest fears. And as a serial over sharer, well I just had to say it. What I didn’t realise at the time of pressing publish is what would happen next. A few days afterwards an email popped into my inbox. The address it came from was you.co.uk. Well as you can imagine I did a double take! That can’t be right, why would You Magazine be contacting me? It’s got to be a scam. Hasn’t it?
So I open the email and to my surprise find it’s from the editor of the magazine. Someone had read my blog post and recommended she have a read. Can you imagine that feeling. Someone had not only read my post but passed it along to another person too. And that person in turn reached out to me to ask if I would like to do an interview for the magazine. To be honest, I wasn’t sure at first if it was something I would like to do. It’s all well and good putting my story in my own little patch of the world wide web. With all 27 of my followers! But with a loyal readership of 1.8 million I wasn’t sure if I was brave enough to share my story with so many people.
So as we do with every decision that impacts us a family, I sat at the dining room table with everyone to discuss whether or not to do it. I was actually very surprised by the ensuing conversation. Whereas my generation tend to keep family matters very much within the family the boys have a completely different perspective. Eldest RFW said, ‘mum, my generation share everything. Go for it.’ And so I replied and said yes to the interview. Though like here, I wanted the boys names protected. And You were very kind and changed all their names for me.
Having never done an interview before I was a little anxious about what would happen next. I needn’t have been. The lovely Anna came down to Devon to interview me and put me at ease right away. They were even lovely enough to also use family snapshots rather than send a photographer. In fact, every step of the process was easy with care, attention to detail and sensitivity throughout. Mind you, I was still a bag of nerves when the day came for the article to be published. I almost couldn’t bring myself to read it! But there was no need to worry.
The article is beautifully written. I didn’t want to come across as a pity party and thankfully I don’t think we do. Instead wonderfully supportive messages are still coming in. I’m slightly disheartened and sad too. That so many families like ours have fallen through the cracks and have little or no support. I’d love you to read the article if you haven’t already, just click here. Or if you’re more a Daily Mail kind of person you can also read it here.